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Why are more women choosing to be single?

The Philippines has strong family ties embedded in their culture, which means that if you are still single at the age of 26 with no kids you are an instant " center of attention" in the family especially if your parents and family members have been meaning to see you get married and have a child.
Times have changed, in the past it is normal to see 18 year old women getting married early. 

Nowadays a lot of women even Filipina women are open to being a single mother. To them, it provides lesser stress and lesser worries. Women will only get married if they can guarantee a man's loyalty and ability to provide for the family. Those women who choose to marry despite the infidelity and gambling habits of men they have married tend to take so much more abuse..which in reality they can escape from if the wanted.

This in the past was accepted due to the fact that not a lot of Filipina women can earn their own living. If you do not have your own job, and if you cannot pay for your expenses..then you would need to get the help of a guy who can provide it for you--but today due to a lot of working opportunities this is no longer a welcome idea to many...especially educated women.
In the past women  had to rely with the help of their husbands who are working  in the city or outside the country.

Much have changed when it comes to the  perception of society of what the proper marrying age is. If you are 26 years old 15 years ago and you still do not have any husband or children--you will already be called an old maid. 

People will start worrying for you and will start matching you up with all sorts of male friends the family has... although some of these beliefs have remained, a lot of things have also changed. A lot of people will no longer recommend an early  marriage.

1. Common Trend in many countries all over the world-  Today, there are over 50 percent of U.S residents that are single, this trend is no different from what is happening in China, Singapore, Korean and other countries.

 Nearly a third of all households have just one resident, and a lot of  35-year old live alone or are choosing to live alone especially women.
Changes like this in the social trend have been named as the " Peter Pan Syndrome", it seems as if more and more   people want to avoid the traditional concept of family life and want to extend their life as a single individual free from the responsibilities of family life.

Some women just like to have their own space, travel to a lot of locations, go home whenever they want.
Freedom that was not given to them before, while some countries like India has yet to come out of the oppressive situation they are in, women in the Philippines are now enjoying so much freedom compared before.

 Women can now dress and live according to how they want.
Women can have a date once in a while, go to the movies without any strings attached and get to relax after work days instead of doing the laundry and cooking the meal.

Women no longer want to just cook the dishes and do the laundry...a lot of women are running their own business now, have their own cars and are able to be who they want to be, thanks to feminism and the women who fought for the right to independence. Finally, men and women can be equal and they can have a chance to be on a partner status instead of getting married together just to be able to sustain their daily expenses. Men and women are now given the chance to evolve on a higher emotional level because of the changes that have taken  place in society.



What women are saying?

Some have a misconception that some single women are just overly picky, some believe that women are single because they are unattractive or there is something wrong with them and the way they live.  However there are various reasons why women are choosing to be single nowadays.

1. Lack of Suitable partners or Bachelors- this can be based on geography, perception and sociology. A lot of single Filipina women have been able to study and are even able to extend their learning until the Masteral Level. 

This means that  their choices for a partner would include males that have actual jobs, can raise the family and can equal them in intelligence and skill. 

Traditionally women will select men whom they can feel protected and secure, if women can already provide this protection and security in life on their own...there are lesser reasons to stay and try to have a relationship.

In the United States for example there are 74 Single men to 100 single Women. Women are having a hard time selecting a partner that they deem as suitable for marriage.

 Unlike before women can already earn their own living and can help pay their own rent, they can choose to support their own lifestyle and help the family at the same time, which gives women less and less reason to put up with a relationship if it is not working for them.

2.  Choosing to focus on careers- a lot of single women have had bad experiences in previous relationships, some have been dumped without justifiable cause, some have been rejected and some have experience being cheated on. 

These reasons have  caused them to choose to focus on their career, some single women believe that it would be better to be accomplished instead of focusing on relationships that no longer benefit them in the long run. 

If they can excel in the work that they do, they already feel fulfilled. A relationship they say is too draining to focus on,  especially for women who have decided to take on a higher degree.

 Relationships in many ways take a lot of time and attention, many single women would rather choose to give the attention to their own self, if they feel that they are ready that is the only time they will try to seek a relationship.  By having this kind of mind set, women can better prepare themselves, they can decide if they want to be more patient or work things out with a guy they really love, or let go and focus on other important things in life.



3. Fear- the idea of fear is what keeps a lot of women from diving into a relationship, some are already afraid to commit and get married. The fear of being hurt again or not meeting the expectations of people around them.

 Getting married will entail a lot of responsibility not just from the husband-wife relationship, but also with potential kids and additional family members that a woman has to be able to cater to in order to make sure that everything will be alright.
Commitment phobia is becoming a thing with modern women, if they can get
 all of the things they want without really  saying yes to commitment--they would choose to be in a position of freedom.




4. Freedom- the concept of freedom to single women means that they don't need the opinion of a boyfriend or husband to do whatever they want, they need not answer to anyone and they don't need to be controlled by anyone. 
Women like to go home at any time they want, if they want to travel they can do so, if they want to change their career or set up a business they can do so without much interruption.

5. Expectations- modern women have been raised to endless telenovelas and movie series telling them about love and how it is supposed to be. 

They expect to be treated well, taken care of, they expect their man to be faithful, loyal and loving and they will no longer settle for less. 

Modern women who earn their own living and can pay for their own sustenance would not want to be troubled with all the fuss a relationship can bring.



6. Children- due to economic circumstances, a lot of women are afraid of getting pregnant and having kids. Women are still afraid that they won't be able to provide for the needs of their future kids and are not able to find a suitable man who can also provide well for the family, and since they cannot find one they would rather be single and just mind their own life.



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 There are no exact reasons why a woman is single, some men say that they don't like dependent and needy women but some men would also say that they do not like women who are too independent and not needy enough.

There is no exact formula, but it has a lot to do with not wanting to worry anymore about another person's expectations in a relationship. If a person can keep on living happy being single, they will choose to do so.

Modern women who have been educated, earn their own living and have the chance to explore are some of the luckiest women in the world.

 Although there is still much pressure from family members to fulfill a traditional role, it is up to the woman to live her life. 

The good thing about what is happening right now is that women can choose if they really want to get married, they can decide if they want to go on a long term and they are given more time to explore who they are and to do so much more.

Single women who will never get married and have kids are still doing epic with their lives.--especially in the community.