This might just seem as trivial to some, but learning to spot a jerk from a quality man can change the world.
Just imagine reducing the number of unwanted pregnancies and not so ideal marriages in the world.
We can start changing the world one principle at a time.
Top Signs that your boyfriend is a Jerk
#1. He talks as if you are not capable of making smart decisions on your own
If your boyfriend is treating you like a child, if he acts like you are not able to live a productive life on your own without him, if he speaks poorly of you to family and friends and most often that not treats you like a servant.
This is already a red alert, a decent guy would allow you to speak your mind and will respect that you also have your own perspective in life.
If he just can't seem to trust you with your life decisions and makes you feel small, chances are he is just trying to control and manipulate you into staying.
If this is the case of your relationship, run as fast as you can. Like the classic saying " You deserve better"...
#2. He treats you as second best:
A decent guy will not make you feel second best, he will not constantly criticize your clothes, your make-up, your shoes. He will not make it a point to make you feel that your likes, passions and hobbies are not good enough.
A good guy will find time to understand why you love certain things and while he might not be in agreement with it, he will not make you feel bad about having these choice because he will be willing to accept you for who you are and not what he thinks you should be.
#3 He does not show signs of support:
If you have always wanted to become a writer, film producer, a ballerina or whatever you can think of and your boyfriend acts like your dream is stupid and refuses to encourage you to pursue your dreams. It is time to go, do not waste your life being with someone who is not able to inspire you.
Everyone needs a support system, someone to remind them that they can be good at certain things. If he is constantly belittling your dreams then he is not the one.
#4 He likes making you jealous
If he is always talking fondly of his ex, if he is fond of mentioning who he last hooked up with before you. If he is reminding you that your friends have better looking legs than you- then your boyfriend is not only a jerk but insecure of who you are.
He has to make you feel less so that he can feel confident, if he has made it a habit to pull you down then by all means no matter how hard it is for you to move on- you must do so or you will get stuck in a life of someone who is not able to care and love someone else because they are unable to appreciate themselves.
#4 He never pays
While modern women earn better and at times have higher salaries that most men. Your boyfriend must still put up an effort of at least splitting the bill if he cannot afford it or finding ways to make sure that he will be the one to pay for the meal next time.
If he is the one asking for money most of the time and wants you to pay the extravagant dinners and weekend getaways--please wake up and see that this could be your life forever. You could be supporting a guy who will just be a free loader in your life instead of getting a partner.
#5 He is not able to fight well
Couples will have their own share of arguments, there are times where in couples will raise their voices at each other.
But it is never normal to hit a woman, if he easily loses his cool during a simple argument and is not even willing to back down for the sake of repairing the relationship then you definitely do not have a keeper.
The arguments would only escalate in the coming years and there is very little hope that they will cherish you when you are already married with kids.
#6 The Lazy Bum
A relationship is a two-way street, there are times where you will give something even though you are not up for it.
Times where you give them a back massage even though you are tired, or you go to a concert that you don't really feel like going to because you value the feelings of your partner.
But if he is never up for it, and when he does show up it will feel like he is being dragged to hell because he always looks sad, not attentive, bored or just plain annoyed then be honest with yourself.
Do you really like someone who will not even try- so that the relationship would work out and not be a living hell for the both of you...
If you put a check on the six items listed above, get out of the relationship drama and just focus on yourself for a while..
Usually when we get into a relationship trap with a jerk- it is because we have forgotten to love ourselves enough.
Taking the time to reflect on who we are, what we want in life and doing what we love can help us get back on track and avoid good for nothing men who will only make life harder than it already is.
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