If you enter a relationship because you feel alone, can't stand to be alone, if you enter a relationship because you think someone should make you happy, You enter a relationship because you like someone to believe you are beautiful or you are someone,
Or you select a partner because you think they will be the one to save you--or someone else to finance you, if you will enter a relationship so that someone will guide you then chances are that you would cling...
Cling for the attention, cling to the promises of a world that always changes, there is a big chance that y will not be able to separate yourself from that someone- getting an identity would be harder.
A big hindrance will be created for what you must become- chances are that you will always be defined by the circumstances that will happen to both of you--chances are that when they withdraw the affection you feel addicted--addicted to the rush of being noticed, addicted to the feeling of being saved, you will always ask for attention like a baby in need of food--always in need of food, always in need of someone else to look at you, to tell you that you exist, that you are someone--and chances are that you will never feel what it is like to be whole.
You will always require something when you love someone, you will give, give, give more than what you have, you will ask and ask and ask thinking that they have drained you of something- and you will never learn to love without asking something back because you are always incomplete.
It will always be a contest--contests are sickening--they always remind you of what you lack, you are always in competition- everyone else becomes an opponent- and you cannot feel loved- because you are not able to give love.
You will never learn to love with manipulating someone, you will never know what it feels like to be vulnerable and strong at the same time.
No one is really meant to provide you with happiness,no one was created for that purpose, no one can be everything for you except yourself.
Only when you have learned to be a self-sustaining unit- only when you learn to produce fruits in your garden, only when you pay attention to what you need at a certain point and learn to provide it on your own do you find peace in mind.
Be happy, make sure you are happy- make sure you are not afraid to be alone, make sure you are focused with a goal, make sure that you like yourself just the way you are- make sure you have traveled to a lot of places- make sure you know your strengths- before you say yes to an intimate and committed relationship.
That is the only time you will be ready to be in a relationship. If you are already fully functional, able to make yourself smile despite all of the drama going on in your life, able to assist without getting torn, able to give without being depleted, able to share without minding --that is the only time you will be able to make it work.
Until you are not a whole unit--don't attempt to drag another person down- you drag someone when you feel you are giving too much and want them to give you something in return for all of the effort- you feel worn out--love should not produce a feeling of being worn out.
Love is not about dragging someone else down to save you. Love is realizing nobody needs to be saved.
Love is only Inspiring- don't fool yourself into believing it has to involve so much drama and pain.
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