In the Philippines everyone is getting married

I live in the age of social networking, where looking at your friends Facebook post is a normal thing to do every day--unless you need to work somewhere where there is no instant internet access.



I started to notice a huge change on my Facebook wall when I reached the age of 26- it seems as though everyone in my high school batch is getting married.

They are either a single parent, engaged, going to get married soon, just got married or just got separated from their 8th boyfriend and first husband.


While everyone else is getting busy hiring their wedding photographers, asking me where they should have their wedding venue or while some are asking me to attend their baby shower or the birthday of their kid..

I am still much at a loss on what I am going to do next--truth be told Marriage has never entered my mind, although I was engaged to be married at the age of 22--It was something I did not really consider and still do not consider even as of today.

Perhaps I am afraid of commitment, or I don't like being tied down, or I am too afraid of the grown up responsibilities or I pretty much feel that I have not even started my life yet...I have only visited 2 countries Thailand and Laos...

I have only been to 10 cities in the Philippines- and even if I am in a good relationship right now-- I still won't feel the need to get married.

Commitment to someone or being loyal to someone is something I can do, but the marriage part sends negative vibrations that I have yet to change.

In the Philippines, its really abnormal if you say you don't like to get married or you will never get married. after all it is still a country with strong family ties.

At a certain age women are expected to fulfill a role, it is not easily understood if you want to get ahead of your career first, it will not be easily understood if you want to focus on something else before pushing to the next stage level.



These roles are hard for me to grasp, I don't think I have the patience to deal with in-laws at this age--still do not have the willingness to take care of children when I barely understand what I want from life.

When I was younger, I rushed so  many things- I rushed my relationship, rushed getting to know another person, rushed the intimacy- rushed the closeness-I did not take the time to understand what I was going through--I was just all about the race because that is how I think a relationship should be--and the relationship unfolded so fast I was not able to savor it,  I was not able to understand why I was there...

And although a lot of people are saying I am foolish for not focusing on building a family right now at the age of 26--I will stand by my decision to take things slower.

I might never get married truth be told and I don't know if that is a good decision or not in the future--but there are certain things that I still don't know about myself and what I want from life and until I don't know what these things are...

Rushing would not be a sensible thing to do...

While the rest of the Philippines is getting married, engaged or changing partners as frequently as they could..

I will sit down in the grass and just watch the world go by. While everyone is rushing to build their family--I will savor the time I have with myself-- if reincarnation is true then I will take this entire lifetime of mine to understand what I want.

I have come to realize that I need to be friends with myself first, to forgive myself for my past mistakes, the person I need to devote my time improving-- is still myself at this age...and while the rest of the country thinks its too late--I will stand by my own timeline.


There are so  many places I still like to visit, so many people I still want to meet.... I wonder how it feels like to walk in the streets of Barcelona, I wonder what it would feel like to learn baking, I wonder what it would feel like to publish my own book...

These are all pretty grand dreams...but I have not yet given up..I still have time...

Marriage could be a good thing to be in--it could be a life changing thing..but until I have a better understanding of my emotions, why I do certain things and why I act the way I do...I have to take sometime to watch the world go by...

In the Philippines everyone is getting married...but I am still floating away...